Body Comments

3 Apr

So far I have gained ten pounds. I have heard comment after comment about how I am not gaining enough weight, that I need to start looking pregnant, and that I may be starving the baby. I typically eat the same thing for breakfast every work day — oatmeal/cold cereal, water/tea, with a piece of fruit or a yogurt. I have worked at the same place for five years. Now that I’m pregnant someone comments on my breakfast at least once a week; here are a few examples:

  • Look at you trying to be health
  • That’s right eat healthy foods for the baby
  • You should always eat like that
  • Doesn’t it feel good to eat healthy

The body judgement and assumptions are ridiculous. I have heard a few people say that I am not taking advantage of being pregnant. In my non-pregnant life I didn’t deny myself foods nor did I criticize my body. This doesn’t mean that I never participated in negative self-talk. It just means that I didn’t apologize for my body or the space it occupies in the world.

I look pretty pregnant to me.

I am not using my pregnancy as a social qualifier or acceptance piece for being in a bigger body. I will not use my pregnancy as a way to gain social acceptance for my body. I will not allow others to use my pregnancy to justify their assumptions about my eating habits.

—- Baby Updates —-

  • Passed my gestational diabetes test.
  • Found out I’m not anemic so no extra iron pills for me.
  • I’m still measuring a week early.
  • The baby’s movement patterns have changed. Now there is more movement at night and early morning instead of midday.
  • We are trying to decide if we want to do a 3D or 4D elective ultrasound. This decision will be made this week.
  • My sorority sister thinks it would be beneficial if we had a doula. So she did some research and sent me the contact information. I will be reaching out to her this week.

—- Random Pictures —-

The space between me and the table when my wife took me out to lunch.

My belly

Charlie and my cousin’s son.

Peanut in a book; this birthday pup turned 8 on April 1st.


5 Responses to “Body Comments”

  1. nobodysperfick April 3, 2013 at 12:22 pm #

    That is all sorts of messed up. You’re beautiful and you’re doing great things to fuel you and your baby.

  2. flyingmermaidemily April 3, 2013 at 3:44 pm #

    Yes, you look pregnant now, and no, it’s nobody’s business to tell you how to be pregnant, but Beebs, the world feeling proprietary about pregnant bellies JUST IS! Not saying it’s right, but folks somehow feel as justified about advising and touching your belly as they did my bald head!

    I don’t know what 3D/4D ultrasound means, and on this site that makes me stupid, sorry, but I’m thrilled about the doula!

    Can’t believe I forgot Peanut’s birthday! Happy belated, little Peanut.


    • Natasha April 4, 2013 at 5:05 pm #

      I love your blog. I live in Canada, am married to my wife (7 yrs), and we have a 2 year old child. You do look pregnant, congrats! I can understand the body judgments as well; it just reflects how ignorant people can be… beautiful bodies come in all shapes, and pregnant ones do too 🙂 We did the 3D ultrasound, it was quite amazing!

      • weddedwife April 6, 2013 at 11:06 am #

        I’m going to schedule one

  3. Rachael April 4, 2013 at 8:01 pm #

    When you are pregnant, I swear your body is no longer off limits in the topic of conversation. I was so annoyed by this all the time. Also, don’t worry about only gaining 10 pounds. I only gained 11 pounds throughout my pregnancy and my doctor said that was a healthy and great weight gain! Also, my kid was super healthy when she came out! 🙂

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